Introduction-The Domesticated Junkie
It’s always hard for me to describe what my life has been so far in an efficient and concise way. I’ve gone through so many things; difficult things, horrible things, amazing things, and everything in between. I’ve experienced more than I probably should have in 27 years and I’ve had more set-backs, bad luck, and self-destruction than the average person. But, my life has offered me unique perspectives and growth that most people probably don’t get when things remain average and plans work out.
When I decided to start a blog, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to include in it and how I wanted to present myself. The person I am now is appropriate; she’s a self-employed mommy-to-be with a house, a fiancé, a dog, and a nice Instagram account complete with images of cute DIY projects and fun maternity outfits, but I wasn’t always that person. So, I found myself wondering who I would be writing about? Am I writing about who I am now or who I was before? Would I exclude my past and focus entirely on myself today or would I show people something more honest? That’s when I realized that everything I am now, every good thing I have today is because of who I have been previously and the honesty of me and my entire life has to incorporate everything; the past, the present, and everything I’ve gone through. So, I decided that being honest and not excluding or hiding anything would be the best way to approach this new endeavor.
The Domesticated Junkie
When I decided to incorporate all of myself in this blog and go with all-out honesty, that meant including one of the largest and most defining pieces of my past: my struggle with addiction and my current journey in recovery. I'm a recovering opiate addict whose addiction has taken me to the darkest, scariest places imaginable. I've lost everything multiple times, I've lived through homelessness, and I've watched others like me lose the fight. It isn't a pretty part of my life, and it isn't everything that defines me, but without those pieces of me I wouldn't be who I am today. So, when I needed to decide on a name for this blog, I thought about my journey from the person I used to be to the person I am today and who I want to be going forward. That's how I settled on the name Domesticated Junkie, because that truly is exactly what I am. I'm a crazy, inappropriate, addict now tamed. Domesticated and happy in my sweet little life.
Am I worried that maybe other women won’t want to hear from an ex-junkie who has had to start over too many times to get to the happy, domestic life she currently has? Absolutely, but I also know that if I came here and wrote about my life, gave advice to others, and offered my expertise and experiences through a dishonest lens, I would hate it. Not only would I hate it, but I know that it wouldn’t have any real value. I’d just be another woman online showing the world a picture of a happy life with no context, no past, and no real or relatable honesty.
My Health Journey
I didn't know it at the time, but finding recovery was only a small step in my much larger, amazing journey to where I am today. Even after I got clean, life kept throwing obstacles at me; I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and put on a medication that absolutely ruined my body and caused me to gain over 150lbs in excess weight. I found myself in continuous pain, overweight, and unhealthy. I was living with infertility, chronic illness, and unhappiness. Eventually, I started to think that I would never be healthy or truly happy. But, I was wrong.
Meeting Matt, the love of my life and soon-to-be husband changed everything for me. He introduced me to a new way of life and a better way to treat myself and my body. After just a year I found myself 100lbs lighter, feeling great, and happier than I could have ever imagined before. That was two years ago. Now, I've lost a total of 180lbs, healed my ovaries, and found myself pregnant with a healthy baby boy. My health went from absolute crap to the complete opposite, and I find myself in the midst of the life I always wanted, but assumed was only a dream.
Who am I?
My name is Allie, and I'm a 27 year old living in Northeast Ohio. I’m a writer, marketer, and jewelry designer. I’m a self-employed mommy-to-be, soon-to-be-wife, and a fur-mom to a flat-coat retriever mix rescue dog. I’m a recovering addict who, after many failed attempts and relapses, has accumulated multiple years clean. I’ve found balance in myself and an understanding of the illness and defective brain chemistry that will always be a part of me. I’m a blogger, homemaker, creator, yogi, vegan, coffee drinker, sunshine enthusiast, fashion lover, and so many other things that I will be incorporating into this blog as honestly and completely as I can.
About This Blog
I want to use this blog to bring entertainment, advice, expertise, and experience to other women like me all around the world. I’m planning to use various pieces of who I am, what I’ve learned, and what I have been able to accomplish to help and inspire others.
I’m going to use my experience with changing my diet and lifestyle to lose 180lbs to talk about eating right, planning meals, and leading a healthier lifestyle. I’ll be giving tips on organization, budgeting, and running a house based on everything I’ve learned and taught myself over the years as I went from another unfortunate screw-up to a happy, well-organized housewife and self-employed mommy-to-be. I will share how I went from being deemed absolutely infertile to having one of the healthiest and most successful pregnancies my Doctors have recently seen, and how other women can strengthen and heal their own reproductive systems. I’ll document my pregnancy and my parenting, offer shopping lists and meal plans, give advice on maintaining self-employment and running your own business, and help others lead a cleaner and healthier life through their diets, fitness, and beauty routines. And, I plan on doing it all as honestly as possible; without the filters of perfection and what I think people want to see and hear diluting it.
If you’ve stuck it out this far and read this entire, long and sometimes rambling post, I hope you’ll decide to stick around a little longer to see what this blog will become. I’m so excited to begin this journey with you and to share my life and pieces of myself with other women, fellow-parents, friends, family, random interested parties, and anyone else who is looking for some honest and heartfelt inspiration for their own lives.
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